How Do We Find Happiness?

June 9, 2023

by Pam Boney


It's funny how happiness is always something in the future, but external rewards never seem to fill the void.

I started thinking about happiness and the pursuit of happiness. We all work hard, right? But if we're good people, then deep down, we know that it's not really about the external things. It's about something inside of us. We want to fulfill our creative purpose.

So isn't it interesting that we still think things like, "I'll be happy when I get the house I want," or "I'll be happy when I get that promotion." It never seems to be in the present moment. It's always in the future.

I read two different things that helped me understand this better. In Stephen Covey's book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, he talks about the difference between personality and character. He says that character is what helps us feel fulfilled, while personality is just a tool that we use to get things.

So if we really want to find ultimate peace and fulfillment, we need to invest in our character. We need to develop the strength of our internal compass and build up the strength inside of us. Invest in our self-respect, one choice at a time. Over time this adds up to a life you can feel proud of. This is what will create true happiness and fulfillment. 

Here are some specific things that we can do to build character and find happiness:

  • Be kind and compassionate, especially to those who are suffering or acting out of fear. 

  • Help others in need who are less fortunate.

  • Be grateful for the little things. 

  • Cultivate quiet and connect with nature.

  • Be there for your family and friends when life challenges them. 

  • Live in the present moment and appreciate the here and now.

When we focus on building character, we are investing in our own happiness. We are creating a life that is full of meaning and purpose. We are finding true fulfillment.