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Tiltology - The Tilt Wiki

Tiltology is our science about the evolution of personality development. It's based on a theory of personality and character development that goes way beyond "Typology"

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The Four Tilting Patterns

When developing whole-brain capacity, we need to develop four ways of thinking (or otherwise called Ways of Being in Tiltology). To develop each, we need to intentionally lean into or "tilt" into a new complex set of behavior patterns to get them neurologically wired. Once wired successfully, we can access more complex reasoning for whole-brain decision-making.
The Four Tilting Patterns

When developing whole-brain capacity, we need to develop four ways of thinking (or otherwise called Ways of Being in Tiltology). To develop each, we need to intentionally lean into or "tilt" into a new complex set of behavior patterns to get them neurologically wired. Once wired successfully, we can access more complex reasoning for whole-brain decision-making.

True Tilt vs. Adaptive Tilting Patterns

There may be a difference between your natural or "True Tilt" and your current adaptive Tilting pattern. We are all born with a set of patterns that are innate and we also learn to adapt to our environment in many creative ways that ensure we can survive and thrive in an often unfriendly environment. This doesn't mean you are not being yourself. It simply means that you have the intelligence and agility to adapt to different ways of being that are more appropriate for diverse conditions. The more agility you learn, the more you are able to thrive in new settings that could present new conditions to navigate. In a world where conditions are dynamic and rapidly shifting, we benefit from learning various ways of being. When we develop the ability to shift into any of the FOUR Tilting patterns at will, we call this the 5th way. The 5th way, means that you are evolved and whole. Essentially, you are all four ways of being at once and acting in service of your true self.


1. The Structure Tilt

Description: (Combines Wisdom Character Strengths & Courage Character Strengths)

"Structure" Way of Being: Organized for execution. Employs Sequential Reasoning Skills.

When you are Tilting in STRUCTURE it means that you appear to be focused on connecting INFORMATION and ACTION and have a natural proclivity for masterminding or building intricate, precise systems that offer stability and sustainability to the world.

TEAM ROLE: The Master Mind

TOP CHARACTER STRENGTHS: Your greatest gift to the world is EXECUTION, especially for building complex systems that have to fit together in some kind of sequential order that employs rational reasoning and concentration. Your brain is wired to be able to handle a lot of facts and organize them into refined systems that bring order and integrity to bear.

PASSIONS: Your top passions are related to precision, accuracy, efficiency, complex tasks and actions. Your top thinking skill is complex problem solving and your top feeling skill is integrity about doing everything you do with a high degree of conscientiousness. Doing the right thing and doing it well is important to you.

SHADOW (Denied-self): The thing you most resist is social connection because it distracts you from your goal, which is execution of complex tasks. You might say you have an allergy to social connection (the Tilt opposite your preference) and because of this, it feels awkward and uncomfortable at times.

AVOIDANCE STRATEGY (avoidance of your shadow): You might unwittingly be tempted to view others as the main interference to your goals, so you may unwittingly push away from them and distance yourself from the one thing you need most; deep and pleasurable social connection.

FAULTY STORY: Your inner story is that you must remove flaws from the world through your work, but deep down your true fear is that you are somehow flawed yourself and will be judged for this, so you work hard to stay superior to or “above” others in some predictable way by being an expert.

DEVELOPMENT GOAL: As you actualize and grow, you begin to realize that you are already perfect in your imperfect human condition like everyone else and there is nothing fundamentally flawed about you at all. You let go of the overgeneralized distortion and see your flaws as part of yourself, but not who you are in a bigger sense. When you integrate your shadow and make friends with it, you feel whole and balanced. You begin to develop very intimate relationships where you feel accepted and supported and you revel in this deep connection. Becoming open to CONNECTION allows you to bring your gifts to the world in a much more powerful way while you enjoy fruitful relationships that strengthen your inner core.

THINKING vs. FEELING preference in the Structure Tilt

There are two STRUCTURE TILTS; one with a preference for FEELING and one with a preference for THINKING. Your TILT STACK indicates which one is your dominant preference, but both are strong in you regardless. If your Tilt stack indicates that Wisdom is above Courage, you may be more focused on objectivity, discipline and subject matter expertise. If your Tilt stack indicates that COURAGE is above Wisdom, you may be more focused on integrity, morality and decisiveness. WINGS: Your two WINGS are IMPACT and CLARITY, and the goal is to develop character strength in both wings so it is easier to develop your SHADOW (CONNECTION) and integrate the denied aspects of yourself to complete your development journey. When you actualize all four Tilts you can then operate from a more sturdy sense of wholeness and contribute to the world in bigger ways.

Ideal Work Environment

When you are Tilting in Structure, you are deeply focused on masterminding and executing a complicated work task. For this reason, you require a quiet climate where you will not be interrupted. Social interaction, if any, is only desired if it relates to the task at hand and only in forms that do not interrupt the flow of cognitive focus. If you do not ensure that you are protected by this kind of climate you could become rather irritable and angry. Others who want to connect with you will encounter an unwilling and even recalcitrant response. When you're in Structure, socializing is just not of interest and you want to be left alone with the mastery of the huge task you are tackling with veracity. In order to ensure that you take care of yourself during this time, you may want to express your intentions to your loved ones and social connections so that they know why you are non-responsive. Give them a time estimate for how long you plan to focus and express your reasons. If they know ahead of time and they realize how important this task is to you, then they will willingly leave you alone, aware that you will come back to being open and social when the time is right. It's only when they think you are abruptly dismissing time spent with loved ones entirely, that others will judge you for your relentless focus on work.

Social Perception

When you are tilting in STRUCTURE, others may see you as:

Note: The kind of intelligence you apply most here is sequential thinking.

Highly focused on tasks.
Capable of deep concentration.
Able to architect complex systems.
Strong-minded and capable.
Certain about your plan of action.
Able to work long hours.
Tenacious about your goals.
Building things that create order.
High degree of attention to quality.
Concerned with stability.
Complex problem-solving.

When you are OVER-tilting in STRUCTURE, others may see you as:

Withdrawn & socially avoidant.
Obsessive about specific details.
Emotionally detached & avoidant.
Harsh with your opinions.
Blunt with your truth.
The police of preciseness.
The police of correctness (i.e, grammer, spelling, etc).
Forceful about your convictions.
Always right.
Superior to others.
Driven about tasks.
Overly focused on the integrity of others (or lack of it).
The judge of others.

What's really going on is that you want to be left alone to accomplish an important and complex task (or tasks). You see social interaction as an interruption of that work and therefore may come across with a persona that will push them away with the behaviors above. The truth: You fear that something is going to fall apart and then you or others will be vulnerable in some way. Be gentle with yourself and realize that the world won't fall apart without you. You are even more harsh with yourself in your inner language than you are with others. Be kinder to yourself and you will begin to show up in a better way. If you pay attention to your motives and shift from fear to strength, you will accomplish amazing tasks that have an expansive and profound influence in the world.

Team Strategy
The best way for others to successfully interact with you when you are Tilting in Structure:

Ask them to...

Be direct and succinct.
Be specific and precise.
Be mindful about interrupting unnecessarily.
Be prepared and organized.
Give feedback directly with supporting facts.
Don't be lazy or ask me to do what you could do on your own.
Be self-sufficient and contribute to the task.
Hold your emotions for another time.
Remind me to take a break to incubate my ideas.
Wait until there seems like a natural break before interrupting.
Protect me from interruption by others.
Use correct grammar, spelling and rules PLEASE!
Do what you say you are going to do.

Value to the enterprise

You execute work efficiently & brilliantly
You are highly focused & planful in architecting detailed projects
You can handle a large number of related tasks quickly
You don't distract others from work so you increase overall productivity
If left alone, you can knock out 3-4 times the work of people in other Tilting patterns.
You are the expert of detailed architectures or systems.
You are highly disciplined and work with precision.
You care about high quality work done efficiently.
You will build things that provide sustainability for the enterprise.



2. The Impact Tilt

Description: (Combines Resilience Character Strengths & Courage Character Strengths)

"Impact" Way of Being: Organized for Innovation. Employs Imaginative Reasoning Skills.

When you are Tilting in IMPACT it means that you appear to be focused on connecting IDEAS and ACTION and have a natural proclivity for inventing new solutions that offer creative imagination through change. Comfortable with risk, you like taking a new idea and putting it into action.


TEAM ROLE: The Change Catalyst

TOP CHARACTER STRENGTHS: Your greatest gift to the world is INNOVATION, especially strategic solutions that require a blend of novel thinking and emotional confidence despite the unknowns. Your brain is wired to connect the dots quickly in a holistic way and catalyze them into outcomes that bring fresh new ideas into practical form.

PASSIONS: Your top passions are related to futuristic ideas, concepts, strategies and actions. Your top thinking skill is imagination of futuristic states and your top feeling skill is decisiveness in the midst of uncertainty and risk.

SHADOW (Denied-self): The thing you most resist is being still and patient because it distracts you from your goal, which is about bringing what you imagine into the world in real form. You might say you have an allergy to spending time doing thorough homework to gain CLARITY (the Tilt opposite your preference) because you rely on your gut instinct and don’t have the patience to slow down and do the deeper analysis.

AVOIDANCE STRATEGY (avoidance of your shadow): You might unwittingly be tempted to view others as less powerful and decisive than you, so you run ahead of them and distance yourself from the one thing you need most; the discernment for making well-thought out decisions. You like to MOVE fast and avoid sitting still because you tend to create better while you are in motion. This contributes to your avoidance of being still and listening to the emotions inside of you.

FAULTY STORY: Your inner story is that you must keep moving forward in order to avoid boredom or sadness, but deep down your true fear is that you are not all that comfortable being alone with yourself as it might make you face feelings you’d rather suppress.

DEVELOPMENT GOAL: As you actualize and grow, you realize that you can enjoy alone time and quiet your busy mind because the emotions you avoid can actually inform growth in discernment. By paying attention to emotions rather than suppressing them, you are now able to be quiet and experience an inner calmness inside that you didn’t know you had. When you integrate your shadow and make friends with it, you feel whole and balanced. This allows you to bring your gifts to the world in a much more powerful way.

THINKING vs. FEELING preference in the Impact Tilt:

There are two IMPACT TILT preferences; one with a preference for FEELING and one with a preference for THINKING. Your TILT STACK indicates which one is your dominant preference, but both are strong in you regardless. If your Tilt Stack indicates that RESILIENCE is higher than COURAGE then you may be more focused on ideas, novelty, freedom, individuality, creativity, aesthetics, and inspiration. If your Tilt Stack indicates that COURAGE is higher than RESILIENCE, then you may be more focused on decisiveness, risk-taking, persistence and confidence with an underlying urgency to take action in service of justice.

WINGS: Your two WINGS are STRUCTURE & CONNECTION, and the goal is to develop character strength in both wings so it is easier to develop your SHADOW (CLARITY) and integrate the denied aspects of yourself to complete your development journey. When you actualize all four Tilts you can then operate from a more sturdy sense of wholeness and contribute to the world in bigger ways.


Ideal Work Environment

When you are Tilting in IMPACT, you are very focused on the compelling idea you have about the future and how to move it into action fast. For this reason, you require a lot of autonomy and wide open space to bring your vocal expression into the world in a big way. Contemplation, if any, is not reasonable given that you have to beat others to market with your ideas. If you do not ensure that you have already done your homework to ensure your idea is credible, then you could risk too much on a hunch and unfounded support. Others who want to connect with you will encounter a fast-paced mover and shaker that is dismissive at times. When you're in Impact, socializing is important but only to persuade others about the vision and to ensure that they are on board and loyal to you and the cause. In order to ensure that you take care of yourself during this time, you may want to express your intentions to your loved ones and social connections so that they know why you are so busy and active. Give them a time estimate for how long you plan to be otherwise occupied with carrying out your plan and express your reasons. If they know ahead of time and they realize how important this vision is to you, then they will willingly offer their support, aware that you will come back to being still and quiet when the time is right. It's only when they think you are abruptly dismissing their input, that others will judge you for your lack of attention to their needs.


Social Perception

When you are tilting in IMPACT, others may see you as:

Note: The kind of intelligence you apply most here is imaginative thinking.


Creative & Innovative.
Intuitive sensing.
Long-term futuristic envisioning.
Holistic & systemic reasoning.
Connecting disparate ideas.
Determined goal focus.
Visual & abstract reasoning.
Concerned with aesthetics.
Conceptual, big-picture focused.
Idealistic about the future.
Challenging the status quo.
Challenging old assumptions.
Confidence in intuitive vision.
Creative problem-solving.
Metaphoric storytelling.

When you are OVER-tilting in IMPACT, others may see you as:

Dismissive & inattentive.
Impatient with delays.
Uninterested in debating the issues.
Fast-paced to the detriment of others.
Arrogant about your ingenuity.
Speak the truth without noticing the impact.
Results-oriented to a fault.
Eccentric in your ideas about the future.
Forceful about your vision.
Strong-willed about having your way.
Step on others to get results.

What's really going on is that you have a gift for noticing the systemic trends that are unfolding and have an original way of preparing for the convergence of these events. You see what needs to happen, you have a vision about how to alter the future in some way and you want everyone to trust that you know what you are doing. It requires a certain amount of hubris to speculate about an uncertain future, but you have a strong hunch that may be based on a fully informed intuition. You, therefore, may come across with a persona that appears arrogant and will be dismissive of any obstacles that stand in your way. The truth: You fear that the world is headed for disaster and that you need to be the one to save it. Slow down and listen to the quiet inner wisdom inside yourself and realize that the world may end up just fine without you but trust your instincts and proceed for your own satisfaction and you may very well do great things. You are even less patient with yourself than you are with others. That sense of urgency could get you into trouble so slow down and attend to the views of others trying to help you see the potential risks associated with your plan. Be patient with yourself and you will begin to show up in a better way. If you shift from fear to strength, you may actualize your full potential which is to invent or innovate futuristic, novel ideas that truly could change the world.

Team Strategy

The best way for others to successfully interact with you:

Ask others to...

Be direct and assertive, but friendly.
Be cooperative and offer support.
Provide information about the risks in a matter-of-fact way.
Don't stonewall or resist the forward motion.
Carefully present risks in a matter-of-fact way.
Give feedback directly and explain how it connects to my vision.
Don't be overly-detailed in explanations.
Be self-sufficient and contribute to the team.
Don't talk too much or be an obstacle.
Remind me to review the analytical data.
Be assertive if you think I am making a mistake.
Trust that I have a strong instinct that may be right.
Hold your own power and don't show weakness.


Value to the enterprise


They will put forward innovative ideas.
They protect their own team fearlessly.
They get results quickly.
Roll their sleeves up and work hard.
Futuristic about the future in an intuitive way.
They are generalists that are highly agile.
They are persuasive about getting others to carry out the plan.
They care about those who are vulnerable.
They will envision and catalyze change.



3. The Clarity Tilt

"Clarity" Way of Being: Organized for Interpretation. Employs Analytical Reasoning Skills.
Description: (Combines Wisdom Character Strengths & Humanity Character Strengths)

When you are Tilting in CLARITY it means you appear to be focused on connecting PEOPLE and INFORMATION and have a natural proclivity for interpreting and analyzing data that can ultimately affect people. Patient with doing your homework and investigating the details thoroughly, you like taking your time to dive deep and interpret the risk of various paths of action.

TEAM ROLE: The Quiet Genius

TOP CHARACTER STRENGTHS: Your greatest gift to the world is helping people get clear about what’s most important and come into ALIGNMENT through teaching or supporting human values for the common good. You are especially adept at assessing the risk associated with alternative paths of action so that an optimal solution can be clarified and implemented. Your brain is wired to go deep and slow down when a complex problem arises. In fact, your perspective is so thorough, that you see things and people as much more complex than others do and are patient enough to wait until everyone comes around and understands in their own way. This is because “you know how much you don’t know” and are aware of the variety of alternatives that can be considered.

PASSIONS: Your top passions are related to investigation, research, teaching, helping, supporting, and advising. Your top thinking skill is analytical processing and risk assessment, which requires great focus and understanding of human values. Your top feeling skill is being a trusted advisor, teacher or supporter.

SHADOW (Denied-self): The thing you most resist is moving forward without knowing all of the relevant facts because it distracts you from your goal, which is learning for the sake of learning and “after all, it could be worse to move ahead than to do nothing at all.” You might say you have an allergy to taking bold action that might cause adverse IMPACT (the Tilt opposite your preference) because you rely on knowing all of the relevant details and may be reluctant to take the personal risk involved.

AVOIDANCE STRATEGY (avoidance of your shadow): You might unwittingly be tempted to see others as less intelligent and thoughtful than you are, which might cause you to take pride in avoiding risks. This keeps you from achieving the one thing you need most; the aliveness that comes with moving forward in a way that expresses your individuality and personal power.

FAULTY STORY: Your inner story is that you would be risking too much if you were to act on your own wants and dreams. Deep down your true fear is that you would be successful and then you would lose all of the spare time you are able to devote to your interests.

DEVELOPMENT GOAL: As you actualize and grow, you realize that you can move forward and take some chances because many of the possible risks you envision will not actually happen so you don’t need to be paralyzed by so many “what-ifs”. When you integrate your shadow and make friends with it, you feel whole and balanced, knowing you are in command of your life and time. This allows you to bring your gifts to the world in a much more powerful way.

THINKING vs. FEELING preferences in the Clarity Tilt:

There are two CLARITY TILT preferences; one with a preference for FEELING and one with a preference for THINKING. Your TILT STACK indicates which one is your dominant preference, but both are strong in you regardless.

If your Tilt Stack indicates that WISDOM is higher than HUMANITY, then you are more focused on facts, reality, caution, reflection, discipline, research, and supported by an underlying desire for truth. If your Tilt Stack indicates that HUMANITY is higher than WISDOM, then you are more focused on people, compassion, kindness, helping, supporting, nurturing and supported by an underlying desire for harmony.

WINGS: Your two WINGS are STRUCTURE & CONNECTION, and the goal is to develop character strength in both wings so it is easier to develop your SHADOW (IMPACT) and integrate the denied aspects of yourself to complete your development journey. When you actualize all four Tilts you can then operate from a more sturdy sense of wholeness and contribute to the world in bigger ways.

Ideal Work Environment

When you are Tilting in CLARITY, you are very focused on the analysis of information that is important to people and specifically discerning ways to ensure that things remain safe and stable. For this reason, you require a lot of time to carefully evaluate a every way that risks could interfere with that safety. Contemplation is your friend and you have the patience to wait for the data to come in so that you can assess accurately. A great troubleshooter, you can see numerous ways that things could go wrong and will contribute to the stability of any system you are part of by ensuring that contingency plans are in place. Because you love investigating the details to get to the bottom of your theories, your judgment is highly credible and you are deeply trusted by others because you can support your theories with hard facts and deep bodies of knowledge. Others who want to connect with you will find a highly reliable and approachable advisor who will listen and can offer wise advice. You keep confidences easily and don't share information without thinking about the potential unintended consequences, so you are trusted by almost everyone. When you're in CLARITY, socializing is important but you are careful with your inner circle. You like people who are realistic and practical and are keenly intuitive about people. Especially with regard to whom can be trusted. In order to ensure that you take care of yourself when you are tilting in CLARITY, you may want to express your intentions to your loved ones and social connections so that they know why you are reluctant to move forward quickly and want more time to think things over. Give them a time estimate for how long you plan to investigate the risks and let them know that you do plan to support the goals of those your support. If they know ahead of time and they realize how important decisions are to you, then they will willingly wait for your views to surface, aware that you will move forward when the time is right. It's only when they think you are an obstacle to their vision and goals that others will judge you for your lack of willingness to embrace a reasonable amount of risk. Risk, supported by a sufficient amount of analysis is necessary for the accomplishment of big picture goals and you will contribute to the overarching success of any vision by providing your interpretation of the facts in a way that also supports forward momentum.


Social Perception

When you are tilting in CLARITY, others may see you as:

Note: The kind of intelligence you apply most here is analytical thinking.

Investigation skills.
Analysis of detailed information.
Interest in historical evidence.
Interpretation of highly complex information.
Concern for the welfare of humanity.
Nurturing about what serves people.
Interested in supporting others with advice.
Risk assessment.
Troubleshooting risks.
Factual reporting that is accurate.
Strong critical reasoning.
Acute discernment about risk.
Collecting & investigating details.
Figuring out how complex things work.
Supporting others about your interests.
Studying all of the facts about something.
Collecting things & information.


When you are OVER-tilting in CLARITY, others may see you as:

Very risk-averse.
Patient to a fault.
Focus on the past and historical evidence.
Stopping forward momentum with objections.
You always start with NO in negotiations.
You may go along without being truly aligned.
Withhold too much when others need your perspective.
Analysis paralysis.
Conservative about your views.
Fearful about anything risky.
Immobilized by too many choices.
Paranoid and worrying.
Acquiesce at your own expense.
Minimize your own value.
Study things without applying them.

What's really going on is that you have a gift for investigating subjects that require deep analysis. You worry that if you or others move forward too quickly, some facts will be missed and you could prevent disastrous consequences that may affect people. You want plenty of time to dive deep and study the potential outcomes that are possible. You often feel others are too quick to act and wish they would be more cautious. You don't really intend to stop others from what they want to do, but you start with NO and will be quick to state the risks. Therefore people often mistake your initial response as a block to their goals. What you really want is time to evaluate the decision and if you share this, others won't have such a negative reaction to your early objections. You don't trust intuition and want to dig into the historical facts that can be trusted because of empirical evidence. People who move forward on a hunch confound you and you simply can't relate to such an approach to decision-making. Highly logical, you therefore may come across with a persona that appears defensive and risk-averse. The truth: You fear that following intuition will end in disaster and that you need to be the one to save everyone by stopping them from quick action but your approach may make you seem unsupportive. If you can express your intention to move forward after you have enough time to analyze the decision and can give an estimate about the time to you, others may not react so negatively to your concerns. Explain that you have every intention of supporting them, but that you have something important to contribute to the stability of the situation as you go forward. Your temptation will be to withdraw and even withhold your judgment and let people move forward to make their own mistakes. In this case, they will not have the benefit of your deeper kind of wisdom and discernment, so this is not effective for you in the long run. Increasing your sense of urgency a mere 5% could get you the traction you need and enable alignment to the vision. Remind yourself that most of the risks you envision never come true and position yourself as a consultant with those you want to support and you will begin to show up in a better way. If you shift from fear to strength, you may actualize your full potential which is to protect and stabilize the entity you serve. Being more assertive and trusting your inner wisdom is the most important shift you can make to add higher levels of contribution.

Team Strategy

The best way for others to successfully interact with you:

Ask others to...

Be patient & give you time to align in your own time.
Join you in investigating a little deeper.
Listen to information about the risks involved.
Encourage you to support the vision.
Encourage you to be assertive.
Share what you know, which is more than others often know.
Don't move too quickly without the supporting facts.
Ask you what you need to move forward.
Avoid reckless action that will alienate you.
Understand that it takes time for you to trust others.
Know that you don't mind being in a supportive role.
Trust that I rely on facts and historical evidence.
Encourage me to assert my choices instead of going along.


Value to the enterprise


They will know the facts.
They protect the best interest of all.
They will warn of the potential risks.
Spend time studying and researching detailed information.
Be discerning about who can be trusted.
They are specialists who know a lot about certain subjects.
They are highly reliable and loyal.
They care about what is good for all.
They will exercise solid judgment.

They will be organized and provide stability.




4. The Connection Tilt

"Connection" Way of Being: Organized for Collaboration. Employs Social/Interpersonal Skills.

Description: (Combines Character Strengths in Humanity & Resilience)

When you are Tilting in CONNECTION it means you appear to be focused on connecting PEOPLE and IDEAS and have a natural intuition for reading other people’s emotions. You know how to lean into their needs to give them precisely what they appear to want. Comfortable with going into a situation without much information in advance, you like having to quickly interpret the cues and improvise.

TEAM ROLE: The Cross Pollinator

TOP CHARACTER STRENGTH: Your greatest gift to the world is COLLABORATION, especially assessing the talents of others and how they can come together to benefit the whole group. The great maven of networking, you know a lot of people and can go deep with them quickly to get to know them personally. Your brain is wired to tune in to how people are responding to the environment as it happens, so you are great at socializing ideas with the right audience to get widespread buy-in, and usually have a mission in mind at any given time. In fact, your social intuition is so thorough, that you will worry about what the other person is experiencing and can’t resist helping them think it through so they get on board with the right ideas.

PASSIONS: Your top passions are related to advising, counseling, facilitating, entertaining and supporting those people and ideas you believe in. Your top thinking skill is social/emotional processing which requires emotional recognition skills such as reading face and body language. Your top feeling skill is being a trusted advisor or supporter who can persuade others to join in your enthusiasm.

SHADOW (Denied-self): The thing you most resist is structure or rules-based environments, because they distract you from your goal, which is strategic improvisation in response to an ever-changing environment. You might say you have an allergy to being restricted or constrained by STRUCTURE (the Tilt opposite your preference) because you like to keep your options open. Because you think better when you are talking out loud, you can be confusing to others who think you have landed on a decision, when in fact, you are just socializing options. Or you may become overwhelmed because you have left too many options open.

AVOIDANCE STRATEGY (avoidance of your shadow): You might unwittingly be tempted to view others as controlling authority figures that you need to work around with clever strategies designed to let you fly under the radar and be continually underestimated. Your distance yourself from the one thing you need most; the discipline and commitment to architect well-thought out plans for your strategies.

FAULTY STORY: Your inner story is that you want everyone to work together in harmony and get along like intelligent adults with the utmost in respect for all. It surprises you when adults are less than mature or disrespectful to one another and you can be a bit laissez faire about or dismiss those who are engaged in conflict, as un-evolved and socially inferior.

DEVELOPMENT GOAL: As you actualize and grow, you realize that you can acknowledge your own inner anger and right to stand in your convictions more strongly. You begin to realize that if you take a position, it allows you to execute your plans more effectively and spend less time taking care of other people’s emotions and social expectations. You learn to say no to the constant demand on your social skills, learn to say yes to yourself and therefore begin to accomplish your own goals in life. When you integrate your shadow (STRUCTURE) and make friends with it, you feel whole and balanced. This allows you to bring your gifts to the world in a much more powerful way.

THINKING vs. FEELING preferences in the Connection Tilt:

There are two CONNECTION TILT preferences; one with a preference for FEELING and one with a preference for THINKING. Your TILT STACK indicates which one is your dominant preference, but both are strong in you regardless.

If your Tilt Stack indicates that RESILIENCE is higher than HUMANITY, then you will be more focused on strategy, ideas, optimism, inspiration and persuasion, all supported by an underlying desire for novelty. If your Tilt Stack indicates that HUMANITY is higher than RESILIENCE, then you will be more focused on people, compassion, kindness, helping, supporting, nurturing, all supported by an underlying desire for harmony.

WINGS: Your two WINGS are CLARITY and IMPACT. The goal is to develop character strength in both wings so it is easier to develop your SHADOW (STRUCTURE) and integrate the denied aspects of yourself to complete your development journey. When you actualize all four Tilts you can then operate from a more sturdy sense of wholeness and contribute to the world in bigger ways.


Social Perception

When you are tilting in CONNECTION, others may see you as:

Note: The kind of intelligence you apply most here is social/emotional interpersonal thinking.

Highly focused on people & connections.

Capable of highly intuitive social skills.
Reading body language and facial expressions.
Able to collaborate easily.
Humorous and entertaining.
Approachable and engaging.
Embraces diversity and sees the best in all.
High degree of emotional intelligence.
Strong empathy for others.
Embraces diverse points of view.
Maven of social networks.
Appreciates others with generosity.
Charming and likable by many.
Strong social diplomacy skills.
Facilitation of groups is easy.
Open to learning and change.



When you are OVER-tilting in CONNECTION, others may see you as:

Political and people-pleasing.
Scattered and appear unorganized.
Overwhelmed with too many social commitments.
Challenged with managing time (not a priority).
Too open to various points of view.
Chameleon-like in your opinions.
Think out loud too much.
Sends confusing messages.
Talkative and shares too much information.
Self-promoting and center-stage.
Deflects attention on serious matters with humor.
Noncommittal and indecisive.
Resists structure and task-focus.
Indulgent of favorites.
Lacks attention to accountability.

What's really going on is that you want to be free to do what you love which is connecting people and ideas. You see social interaction as the most important work you have to offer and therefore may come across with a persona that will push away anything that distracts you from people. The truth: You fear that people will not approve of something you are involved in and that your reputation will be negatively affected in some way. Since you see your social status as the most important aspect of your power, you will treat anything that tarnishes or reflects on you in a way that is not in alignment with yours values is supremely important. If you begin to get in touch with your own convictions and become willing to stand in power about them, even if others don't approve, your inner and outer perception of integrity will increase. You realize that even if you think everyone loves and approved of you, this is not really true. They will respect you even more if you stand for your views and take a strong position about them publically. Focus more on doing your best at tasks that contribute to the mission and you will begin to show up in a better way that increases respect by others. If you pay attention to your own voice and goals you will actually gain even move approval by others. They want to know where you stand and respect you for standing your ground and doing what you say you will do to contribute to the work in practical ways. Even if it's not as detailed or accurate as others may be, your work will be appreciated and help others see what is important to you. As you shift from fear to strength, you will accomplish amazing tasks that have an expansive and profound influence in the world by bringing them together around common ideals.

Team Strategy

The best way for others to successfully interact with you when you are Tilting in CONNECTION:

Ask them to..

Consider the unintended impact on others.
Be inclusive and open-minded.
Be considerate of the feelings of others.
Be gentle with feedback.
Give feedback in a way that supports the greater good.
Don't be harsh or judgmental.
Be specific about what they want from you.
Be patient with your need to mull things over.
Remind me to start with NO, instead of always saying YES.
Encourage me to sort my own goals higher in the priorities.
Delegate social tasks to me because they are easy.
Protect me from too much structure or restriction.
Engage with me socially a bit before moving to the task at hand.
Understand that I can be trusted to be the keeper of the culture.

Value to the enterprise

You connect the fabric of social interaction in enterprises.
You are the keep of the climate and culture.
You can handle a large number of social connections.
You thrive on interaction with others and this motivates people.
You are great at brainstorming ideas.
You naturally collaborate and facilitate around values.
If people engage with you, they will feel included.
You are the expert on building solid community.
You will build connection around common values.
You build broad social acceptance for the enterprise.
You have broad, powerful social reach and influence.
You are highly diplomatic and entertaining, so you add fun.
You care about people and common social agendas.
You will catalyze change through pushing new ideas.
You will encourage a learning culture and openness.
You insist on rapid growth through support of ideals.

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